Things not to say to people with invisible illnesses part three

Things Not to Say to People With Invisible Illnesses, Part Three

How many times have you been asked whether you have tried celery juice? What about kale/coconut oil/turmeric/yoga/colonics/algae/walking barefoot?

I actually do eat a lot of kale, but somehow it hasn’t made me better all by itself.

People tend to recommend the latest medical trends to the chronically ill as if they will be a magic-bullet-fixit cureall. Most chronic illnesses consist of multiple layers of hell that even people with several medical degrees cannot work out. A daily glass of celery juice will not make it all go away.

When someone makes a medical recommendation to a chronically ill person, the person has probably either: 1) tried the recommended thing 2) cannot try the thing because it would give them giant red hives/a heart attack/other side effect 3) would love to try the thing, but the thing is too expensive 4) has researched the thing and decided it’s not worth trying.

Some popular medical trends are actually harmful for those with spoonie-type illnesses. For example, if you have hypermobile joints, you shouldn’t do stretchy yoga, and celery juice is high in oxalates and feels like tiny daggers in some people’s stomachs.

Then there are those who just get it wrong on multiple levels:

Comic with woman saying doxycycline wrong

This actually happened to me. I wonder if the person really liked OxyClean, or maybe she wanted to clean dachsunds.

One of the biggest problems with Lyme disease is that doctors treat with a very short course of doxycycline, and if you don’t get better they won’t give you any more and you get a lecture on antibiotic resistance. (In contrast, you can get years of antibiotic for acne.) The Lyme bacteria is incredibly complex and usually requires a much longer course of antibiotics, antibiotics and herbs, or other intense treatments (particularly later stages of Lyme). A few people can get better from a course of doxycycline in the beginning, but many don’t. In my case, I took several years of antibiotics plus herbs and supplements, and I improved but then I hit a plateau. I then found out I was living in toxic mold, so I had to start treating the mold symptoms. My health coach says that Lyme and mold toxicity go together like peanut butter and jelly. It’s kind of scary to think of them in a sandwich together.

Since becoming ill, I’ve spent years dashing from practitioner to practitioner, gradually finding people who had a better understanding of my body. This ”healing journey” required obscene amounts of time and money. But I’m not anything near ”well,” because I keep developing new problems that become layered on the older problems. And then I have to find new practitioners and treatments to solve the new problems. And then I have to differentiate between spoonieness and problems of aging, now that I am becoming an Old.

When I said I wanted to travel, I didn’t mean to the doctors office

Sometimes you get a recommendation that is just really weird and out there…

The goat urine

OK, I made them that one up. But there are really people who do something called “urine therapy.” I’m a big believer in functional medicine and alternative health, but there is a certain line I won’t cross. Urine is very much past that line.

Anyway, “Happy” Lyme Awareness Month/ME Awareness Month/Fibro Awareness Month/MCS Awareness Month. I’m going to go drink my celery juice now—just kidding! At one point I did try it for a while—it did pretty much nothing and the taste was…distinctive. It’s possible the person who invented the vomit emoji drank celery juice before creating the emoji. Still, celery is OK in small amounts and sometimes I throw one or two pieces into a smoothie and mix in enough fruit so it’s undetectable.

Here are some great resources for Lyme disease, myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME), multiple chemical sensitivity (MCS), and mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS). Please check out ”Things Not to Say to People with Invisible Illnesses,” part one and part two. It will probably be a really long series.

Also, this piece appeared on May 2, 2022 as a guest blog on, my favorite Lyme resource site.

Spoonfully, 🥄


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Hi! I'm Vicki. My blog is called "Miss Diagnoses" because I have too many diagnoses and because my Lyme disease was misdiagnosed for many years. In addition to being a professional patient, I'm a compulsive reader and doodler. Sadly, my writing and drawing are limited by repetitive strain injury and neuropathy. I use assistive technology, but I can't post as often as I'd like. You can also find me on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and I have two short cartoon videos on YouTube. Twitter and Instagram: @miss_diagnoses Facebook, Pinterest, YouTube: @MissDiagnoses

10 thoughts on “Things Not to Say to People With Invisible Illnesses, Part Three

  1. Have been yet been hit with “you can heal with DNA with your thoughts”kind of cures? It just gets more demented as the years go by or what shit social media people will try to invent for attention or clicks. Though I think a bunch of people are just trying out anything cause they’ve rejected all medicine and then, when of course they don’t break from normal things modern science fixed, they go looking for even crazier “cures”. Sigh. I have a friend I now keep very little contact with cause she is super healthy and thinks the reason anytime she’s “healing herself” it’s because of her mind and crazy things like not eating sugar. No, Karen, your granted from your cold cause even if you don’t do anything they’ll run their course! And no, you didn’t cure yourself with your mind, you’re an Olympic level athlete healthy person, you’ve got a good immune system. I don’t.


  2. Great post. Like how you explain the difficulties in easy-to-understand terms and examples. And done with some humor as well. I’ll remember to avoid celery shakes.


  3. Excellent post! Isn’t it amazing how everyone becomes a doctor when you set sick? Aside from someone who was peddling a “Pemphigus Diet” online, most of the “advice” I got was to simply “clam down” . . . “relax” . . . “it’s all triggered by stress.” Yea, right. I was in a toxic marriage, had two young kids, was starting up a new business, and now had symptoms of a disease that killed my mother at 49. Can someone please find me the switch to turn off the stress? Appropriately, May is also National Mental Health Month.

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    1. Haha, the anti-stress switch! Where is that thing? Wait so May is awareness month for mental health too? So that’s Lyme, fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, MCS, mental health… There’s probably more! That’s a lot of awareness at once for illnesses that cause fatigue!


      1. I’ve had Lyme over 20 years and am tired of being tired! Thank you so much for making me laugh. I’ve had to many doctors to count. Now trying to find one in San Diego ares. Ugh!

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